I've never been the jealous type and have always tried to give my partners their privacy when it comes to phones and stuff, but last week I went to my husband's work drinks and got a weird vibe from one of his female co-workers. She was overly touchy-feely with him and spoke to him as if they were really tight, but he's rarely mentioned her to me. So I did something I swore I would never do: I went through his phone.
Of course I found a suspicious text from her. It wasn't outright cheating, but it was flirty enough to set off alarm bells. When I confronted him, he said it was 'just banter' and nothing to worry about. The problem is, now I can't shake the feeling there might be more going on. He has been oddly protective of his phone lately, and has started working late more often. I don't want to turn into the crazy, paranoid wife, but my gut is telling me something's not right.
My friends all say he's having an affair, but I'm torn. How do I find out if he's really cheating without pushing him away, or making myself look like I don't trust him?
I'm going to say something that might ruffle a few feathers, but it's true: everyone needs a flirt buddy at work. The hours are long, and the work can be tedious Do I think he's cheating?
Do I think she might see it as more than casual flirting? Does he? Probably not. Are you following me here? Stick with me, because I have a theory. It's as simple as this: sometimes we need a little reminder that someone outside of our relationship still finds us attractive. Yes, it's shallow.
