Dear Anthony, Do you have any advice for a dating couple with a difference in past sexual experiences? I have had none; my boyfriend has had some. Also, it bothers me that in conversation my boyfriend occasionally mentions the name of someone from his past sexual experiences. I think a virgin has every right to desire marrying another virgin.
They are just getting so scarce, however, that I worry that a person will miss out on or postpone their vocation which is the higher good because of this desire.
If a virgin is willing to take the risk, then by all means they should seek another virgin. As for bringing up in conversation a person from the past by name especially one they have had sex with , that is wrong.
In fact, it is impolite and even rude to do so. So you need to share with him that you are uncomfortable with his bringing up these women by name in your conversations. If he feels it is important to do so, he first needs to explain why. If his answer seems reasonable to you, then let him do it, but just once to get it out of his system, and never again. There just is no practical reason to do so. If he persists, then this is a red flag that there are other issues he needs to deal with.
If he is dealing with them appropriately i. So be sure you ask him questions directed at how he is dealing with his sexual past. The last thing you want is to go into marriage with anyone who still has unhealthy issues from their sexual past. I am praying for you every day. Yours in Christ, Anthony. Your monthly donation will help our team continue reporting the truth, with fairness, integrity, and fidelity to Jesus Christ and his Church.
