Going from casual dating to a serious relationship is a huge transition. It might seem scary or uncomfortable, which is understandable. But I will say, it can also have so many wonderful benefits! Jackie, I recently went from casually seeing someone to officially being her boyfriend. Casual dating to a serious relationship is terrifying for me, even though I love this woman.
Love is a funny thing. Why is that? Not everyone agrees with me, but I think that people go on dates because they are looking for love. You can fool others or fool yourself and say you are dating just for fun, or for sex, or just to meet interesting people, or to get over your ex, or many other reasons.
Ultimately, even if we want those things, we want love, too, which is the real reason we put ourselves in the dating pool.
There are several outcomes of casually dating. I need a break. The good thing about dry spells is, they always come to an end. When you were casually dating, it was fun, it was harmless, and honestly, it was safe.
Now your relationship is fun, minus harmless and safe. Now you feel like you have something to lose. You might get hurt. You might feel vulnerable , maybe even insecure. You now have a lot to lose. Try to see it in a positive way. Embrace it, celebrate it. This is tricky. Unlike casual dating, serious relationships can be work, at times. Girlfriends can nag. Boyfriends can get complacent. Being in a serious relationship means being there for everything: not just romantic dinner dates and good sex.
