By continuing to use our site, you agree to our Private Policy and Terms of Use. On your knees! Shutterstock Creative. I'm not a fan of the term "blow job. You are offering an intimate part of your body -- your mouth, your breath, your voice. Expert head queens are to be revered. These are people who truly, unabashedly love sucking dick. The rest of us regular people have to learn, and the only way to learn is to practice.
And practice. It's time for a lesson. These are tips and pointers that anyone of any gender can appreciate -- 24 tips for giving amazing head. My name is Alexander Cheves, and I am known by friends in the kink and leather community as Beastly. I am a sex-positive writer and blogger. The views in this slideshow do not reflect those of The Advocate and are based solely off of my own experiences.
Like everything I write, the intent of this piece is to break down the stigmas surrounding the sex lives of gay men. Those who are sensitive to frank discussions about sex are invited to click elsewhere, but consider this: If you are outraged by content that address sex openly and honestly, I invite you to examine this outrage and ask yourself whether it should instead be directed at those who oppress us by policing our sexuality.
For all others, enjoy the slideshow. And feel free to leave your own suggestions of sex and dating topics in the comments. Hungry for more? Photo by Jon Dean. Don't just dive in. Go slow. Draw it out. Give a preamble of what's to come. The full range of intimate body-on-body experience is yours to use, so don't feel like you have to fit into a prescribed, hackneyed script, which you may think goes something like this: make-out session, followed by a blow job, then possibly a rim job, with a finale of penetrative sex that ends in orgasm.
There's so much you can do to get comfortable and excited -- even before the clothes come off. I love kissing and touching. This can be the most intimate part of sex.
