One of the things I suggested in the last post was that having kids should not be an obstacle to searching for a new relationship. While it can be a bit tricky to navigate, I think that kids can benefit from having other adults in their lives. A new relationship can give kids a chance to see in this case Mum in a happy relationship.
Obviously, you don't want to be introducing a new "uncle" every week or exposing them to the early stage of dating. To me, that goes without saying, I think we are all better parents than that!
Mine knew that I was dating. My oldest 11 approached me one night and we had the following conversation:. Him: "Mum, I've seen things Me: "umm, like what kind of things? Him: "dating websites". Me: relieved but agreeing about the horror aspect "I'm not currently signed up on any dating websites. They just send me emails all the time inviting me to join" that was true at the time What is your concern?
Him: "That you have secrets". Me: "Do you want me to tell you if I'm back online so there are no surprises? Him: "yes, please". So I did. Having said that, it was a brief conversation with him that I had gone back online.
All my contacts and dates happened quietly without either of them really being aware. After I met Bellingham and knew things were progressing, I told them I had a new "friend". Slowly I give them a bit more info about him so they can get used to the idea that I'm spending my adult time with him. Obviously you have to be careful at what stage the introductions are made and that depends on so many factors.
