Former No. Wife is not as freaky or fun as she used to be. We are married 15 years with 2 kids. Any ideas to spark her again? Just stuff, everything from play time to sick time, meal time to laundry time, just stuff and lots of it.
I want to recommend to you a book β WillPower. Read it. I think it will really give you perspective on why things are the way they are in your life and resulting in what you are missing in your sex life right now. In all reality, there is a time and a place for everything. I know you already had a really good time together, have made two beautiful children, and now your place is very different. I say you should look into the future and realize you can make all this up later in life.
The less pressure you put on sex, the more freely it will come. Let me explain. When things are tense and things are hectic as the day goes on, sex gets pushed as if it was a book on the counter and as more STUFF happens it gets closer and closer to falling on the floor. When it keeps coming, it is pushed right off the counter and you are back to square one the next day.
I know, my analogies are random but basic, and you get it, I know you do. Want to have some hot sex with your wife? Try this experiment; Take 3 consecutive days and exceed her daily expectations. Help more, surprise her with a clean house. There are so many things you can do to keep that book on the counter waiting for you to take at the end of the day.
Once it works flawlessly, strike that balance regularly, value what you have and look back at the past and keep it there. Live in the now! Big fan! What is that best way to impress a milf? A little story for you.
