Maybe your go-to positions have started feeling stale. Missionary, again, really? Maybe you had a baby and after being mom all day, binge watching "Designated Survivor " sounds far more appealing than the effort that goes into sex.
Or maybe you want to try sex toys , but your partner prefers sticking to the basics. Does this mean your relationship is doomed to a lifetime of subpar sex? Absolutely not. Here are the most common challenges couples face in the bedroom and how to overcome the bumps in the road.
Looking for more relationship and health advice? Sign up to get sex tips, relationship solutions, and slimming recipes delivered straight to your inbox. There may be times when you really are too emotionally or physically drained to have sex, like after a job loss or cross-country move. But for most people, exhaustion is often a cover up for laziness, Zander says. To tackle dry spells, Zander has couples discuss how often they'd each like to have sex.
Once they agree on frequency, she has them make a non-negotiable promise to stick to their scheduleβwhether it's once a day or twice a week. You'd be surprised how quickly people find the time and energy to have sex when you threaten to take away their indulgences," she says. Think having sex twice a week sounds tough to squeeze in? Here's how one woman found the time to have sex twice a day! While toys can certainly spice things up, bringing something tangible into the bedroom can make some people feel like their sex skills are subpar, says Fran Walfish, PsyD, a family and relationship psychotherapist.
Another thing to consider: Some people may balk at the thought of using toys at first, but be curious about them later. So don't lose hope if your partner says no the first time you ask.
