Tinder gets a bad rap. Hey, I totally get it. To be sure, Tinder has facilitated more one-night stands than Cuervo Gold. Some guys come to me having had zero dating luck, and a little casual, short-term dating can be just the thing to give a fellow a needed boost of confidence.
But a LOT of guys—including many of my clients—have used Tinder to make deep connections with amazing women, leading to meaningful relationships, girlfriends… and several engagements. Of course, when guys first come to me, their Tinder game lacks much of a spark. They feel frustrated. Or worse, they incorrectly think the problem is their attractiveness as men. But Tinder is a great way to connect with wonderful women.
The user base is huge—50 million members in U. Only 43 percent of Tinder users are female, according to SurveyMonkey. Not great odds. I give up! To start seeing dating success on Tinder, a guy has to know what to say and do, and what NOT to say and do.
Now, let me stress something important. A LOT goes into Tinder success. A girl likes to know something about her stood out.
So tell her. A lot of guys make the mistake of being lazy and boring with their opening message. Unfortunately, on Tinder, it makes you seem like countless other men, and it makes you look like you put zero effort into your opener. You want to ask her out sooner, rather than later. Most guys wait too long and come across as wishy-washy or tentative. Mistakes will happen.
