So you can imagine my surprise when Sara told me that she had fallen for a brunette, brown-eyed accountant. I put Sara on speaker and waited to receive the picture. When it finally came through, I was sure there was a mistake. Staring back at me was this gorgeous Indian man in a suit and tie โ the complete antithesis to the usual blonde-haired blokes in hi-vis tradie uniforms I was accustomed to receiving from her.
Was Sara coming for my gig? But it got me thinking: did she regret Brian? This can be physical or it can refer to personality types. We have these types for one reason or another and they are different for everyone. Perhaps Freud was onto something and really, we are all just searching for someone to fill a parent shaped hole inside of our hearts.
Either way, most of us have a type and tend to stick to it, so what happens when you deviate from that type? Is it worth it? To find out, I asked six people who dated outside of their type whether they regretted it and it only made sense to start from the source, so I called Sara.
After years of country and surfer boys, what made her shift? Adelaide, where Sara was originally from is a lot smaller geographically and subsequently, the dating app perimeters covered a wider range of people. Dating in Sydney presented a whole new world to Sara.
She would apartment hop, go out for dinners at fancy restaurants and bars. Eva described her original type as being from the same Eritrean culture, someone who is at least three years older than her, taller than her, can challenge her, is smarter than her, willing to grow with her, adventurous and super outgoing.
