Spooning gets a bad rap for being the go-to sex position of the sleepy or lazy. But hear me out: Some of the hottest sex you'll ever have can happen in this cozy setup. For starters, the skin-to-skin contact is unparalleled. That physical closeness also means there are so many opportunities for extra sensations, too, says Janet Brito, PhD, a licensed clinical psychologist and certified sex therapist in Honolulu, Hawaii. The big spoon, for instance, can kiss the little spoon's neck, massage their nipples , or reach out and touch their clitoris.
The options are endless. It's also one of the most discreet positions out there, says Holly Richmond, PhD, a somatic psychotherapist, certified sex therapist and associate director of Modern Sex Therapy Institute. Spooning sex is a subtle way to achieve that. The fact that it's so comfortable is just an added perk. Meet the experts: Janet Brito , PhD, is a licensed clinical psychologist and certified sex therapist in Honolulu, Hawaii.
Holly Richmond , PhD, is a somatic psychotherapist, certified sex therapist, and associate director of the Modern Sex Therapy Institute. All that said, spooning sex won't just make itself exciting.
Here's how to amp up this utensil-inspired position:. Instead, she suggests getting cozy while cuddling first, and trying different arrangements to figure out what works best for you before moving into penetration. Richmond agrees that this position is particularly conducive to slow, steady sex. Ah, lube : an important part of any sexy scenario. Lube just makes sex better, period, especially if there's deep penetration.
You'll definitely want it for spooning sex in particular, says Brito, since this close-contact position can lead to some super-deep thrusting. I get it: Lying down and not moving much is half the beauty of spooning sex. But, in order to make your sexy sesh even more exciting, get frisky with your legs. If you're the little spoon, try lifting one up toward the ceiling and bending the other. These twists will change the feeling of fullness inside you, explains Brito.
