From all the articles I've read, especially the infamous one from Vanity Fair , I found that these articles tend to be overwhelmingly about straight and monogamous men and women. They also tend to fall on two extremes: hookups and long term relationships. It's hard to find something that's in-between.
I'm a queer , polyamorous , and demisexual woman. I currently have one primary partner who is incredibly supportive of me as I discovered my poly-ness early on in our relationship. I date both men and women, and since I'm demisexual, it's almost impossible for me to hookup with someone. It's strange because despite its infamous reputation and what appears to be a mismatch in values, I love Tinder.
She was a graduate student, so we met at a popular bar near campus where grad students hung out for a few drinks. She had short hair and an androgynous look. We sat and talked for a couple hours about how she studied abroad in England and my obsession with the Myers-Briggs personality test. I tried to get as drunk as possible because I wanted to ask her to come home with me, and I was too nervous to hook up with a girl sober.
We went to a shady bar right underneath my apartment for a couple more whiskey sours and then trekked up to my room. I sat in bed next to her and told her I'd never been with a girl before, so she leaned in and kissed me. I awkwardly kissed her back and lied down because I was so tired.
I wasn't feeling it at all. She woke up at 9 am the next day, we hugged goodbye, then she left. I didn't text her. She didn't text me. I discovered after this that I was indeed, demisexual, and my Tinder journey was just going to get more complicated.
