Please create an account or log in to access all these features. Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody. He is a good friend - the sort of friends you can spend 4 hours on the phone to - every night for a week. We are both single, but as he doesn't want a meaningful sex, and I won't have casual sex, we decided a long time ago that it's best left.
Well, Thursday night, he wanted to come over and have sex. And I thought about it, I thought damn hard about it, but I said no. Spent ages reassuring him that he's not ugly etc - it's just not something I want to do. Last night I found out he told me that he had slept with another friend of ours on Tuesday night. And, to my shock, I am horrified! The problem being - I told him so.
I am furious that he has so little regard for me, to risk riding roughshod over my feelings just to get laid, when he has already found someone who is quite happy to have casual sex with him. I told him that while he is very perceptive, and I appreciate that, he has rather cruelly used it to his advantage to figure out people's emotions and try to make them do what he wants them to do.
I basically told him that he has abused his position as a friend, and I'm appalled that he would think to treat me like a piece of meat when we are supposed to be friends. Because he didn't just ask in passing, he spent a long time trying to convince me it was a good idea. Now I'm hurt, he's upset that he's hurt me he is sensitive, that's why I'm so shocked. Maybe - but had he not hit on me I would care who else he got it on with - he's always getting it on with women.
He's always been like that. But more angry that while he knows I won't do casual sex, he spent an hour trying to convince me what a great idea it would be - then I found out it wasn't even because he was desperate for sex! He was just bored! Why do you need a so called friend like this in your life anyway?. He may be good to talk to examine the conversations though, is it all about him and his various problems? Even though he knows your views re casual sex he still wanted to come over and have intercourse.
